Your results may vary. It was a small warning I noticed while reading directions for a little craft project I was about to attempt with the girls. I couldn’t help but laugh to myself at this seemingly innocent warning. Of course my results are going to vary! I’m attempting to complete a craft enlisting the help of a 2 and 4-year-old! I’d have better luck working with a circus monkey and a trained bear!
But the warning got me thinking. It got me thinking about one of the most important lessons I have come to learn since becoming a parent. That no matter your expectations, your results may vary. And that’s okay. It’s a lesson I’ve really struggled with as a mom, and one that has made all the difference once I decided to embrace it.
I always have visions of how things are supposed to go. Vision: Easter with both of my girls dressed in their Sunday best and smiling sweetly for the camera.
Reality: The big one hates her dress (that she picked out!) and the little one hates her shoes so much she can’t. even. walk.
Vision: I wonderful time had by all trick-or-treating as Anna and Elsa.
Reality: The little one losing her sh!t all night because she didn’t like her costume, the Halloween decorations, or having to ring door bells.
Vision: A picnic at the park sprawled out on a blanket with both of my giggling girls while we pick dandelions and look at the clouds.
Reality: The big one gets mad at me for not allowing her to hit her sister and takes her lunch on the bench while pouting.
Obviously I could go on, but I’m guessing you get the point. So what’s the answer? I’ve had to lower my expectations! Seriously. I’ve had to learn to have realistic visions about what to expect. While this might sound a bit negative or like I’ve thrown in the towel, that is not the case! To the contrary, it has made me a much happier parent. Knowing that there are going to be challenges, but not allowing that to ruin my experience has brought me so much more peace. I have always tried to be in control of all aspects of my life, but being a parent has taught me that I’m not always able to control everything.
It’s a work in progress, this whole parenting thing, but I believe it is making me a better person. Things aren’t always going to go the way you envisioned, and that’s okay. Your results may vary.